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and the whole ceremony
took two days to perform.
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Never have the words had
such meaning.
:51:06
Now, that marriage should last.
:51:10
Still, if it does not,
well, that'll be all right.
:51:13
For don't you see, any step
that one takes is useful, is positive...
:51:17
has to be positive
because it's a part of life.
:51:19
Even the negation of the previously
taken step is positive.
:51:22
That too is a part of life.
And in this light... and only in this light...
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should marriage be viewed
as a small, single step.
:51:31
If it works, fine.
:51:33
If it fails, fine.
Look elsewhere for satisfaction.
:51:37
To more marriages, fine.
As many as one wants. Fine.
:51:39
To homosexuality? Fine.
To drug addiction?
:51:42
I will not put it down. Each of these
is an answer for somebody.
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For Alfred,
today's answer is Patricia.
:51:50
For Patricia,
today's answer is Alfred.
:51:53
I will not put them down for that.
:51:57
So what I implore you both...
Patricia and Alfred...
:52:01
to dwell on while I ask you these questions
required by the state of New York to...
:52:06
legally bind you...
sinister phrase, that...
:52:09
is that not only are the legal questions
I ask you meaningless...
:52:14
but so too are the inner questions that
you ask yourselves meaningless.
:52:18
Feeling one's partner
does not matter.
:52:21
Sexual disappointment
does not matter.
:52:23
Nothing can hurt if you do not see it
as being hurtful.
:52:26
Nothing can destroy if you do not
see it as destructive.
:52:30
It is all part of life...
:52:32
part of what we are.
:52:35
So now, Alfred...
:52:38
"Do you take Patricia to be
your lawfully wedded wife...
:52:41
to love..."whatever that means...
"to honor...
:52:44
to keep her in sickness, in health,
in prosperity and adversity..."
:52:47
What nonsense!
:52:49
"Forsaking all others..."
What a shocking invasion of privacy.
:52:53
Rephrase that to more sensibly say...
:52:56
"If you choose to have affairs, then you
won't feel guilty about them."