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it ruined their relationship.
They practically never had sex again.
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It's true. That's one of the secrets
that no one ever tells you.
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I would sit with my girlfriends who have
kids... my one girlfriend with kids, Alice,
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and she would complain about
how she and Gary never did it any more.
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She didn't even complain about it.
She said it matter-of-factly.
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She said they were up all night,
they were both exhausted,
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the kids took every sexual impulse
they had out of them.
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Joe and I would say "We're so lucky.
We have this wonderful relationship."
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"We can have sex on the kitchen floor
and not worry about the kids walking in."
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"We can fly off to Rome
on a moment's notice."
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Then one day I was taking
Alice's girl for the afternoon
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cos I promised to take her to the circus.
We were in the cab playing I-spy.
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"I spy a mailbox", "I spy a lamppost".
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And she looked out the window
and she saw this man and woman
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with these two little kids, and the man
had one of the kids on his shoulders.
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And she said "I spy a family."
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And I started to cry.
You know, I just started crying.
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And I went home
and I said "The thing is, Joe,
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we never do fly off to Rome
on a moment's notice."
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And the kitchen floor...?
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Not once. It's this very cold,
hard, Mexican ceramic tile.
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Anyway,
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we talked about it for a long time. I said
"This is what I want" and he said "I don't".
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And I said "Well, I guess it's over."
And he left.
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And the thing is, I... I feel really fine.
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I am over him.
I mean, I really am over him.
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That was it for him.
That was the most that he could give.
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And every time I think about it, I am more
and more convinced I did the right thing.