1:13:18
I went to the doorbell.
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There were two
Nassau County detectives
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and they said they'd like to
speak to our son
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with regard to
the Friedman matter.
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They came in and said, "We know
something happened to him. "
1:13:30
They didn't say, "We believe. "
1:13:31
They said, "We know. "
1:13:34
And they wanted
to speak to him.
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I remember it was actually kind
of a frightening experience
1:13:38
because I remember
they're talking
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to my parents about this
within earshot of me.
1:13:43
I remember actually
eavesdropping
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on what they said
1:13:47
and what they said
made my heart race
1:13:50
because they were saying
1:13:51
that actually quite
a few horrible things
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had happened to
a lot of children
1:13:55
and I was one of them.
1:13:57
And quite honestly,
I didn't believe it
1:14:00
and I was very confused
and very angry about this,
1:14:04
thinking, well,
why are these people
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going around
telling my parents
1:14:08
that all kinds of
things have happened
1:14:09
when I have simply no
recollection of anything?
1:14:14
Children want
to please very often.
1:14:16
They want to give you
the answers that you want.
1:14:18
Adults do that as well.
1:14:20
So you have to be
very mindful of the fact
1:14:22
that when you're
interviewing a child
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if the child starts
to answer questions
1:14:27
your responses should be
somewhat in the framework of
1:14:29
"And then what happened?"
1:14:30
Or, "What happened next?"
1:14:32
Or, "What do you remember then?"
1:14:33
As opposed to
1:14:35
"He did this to you,
didn't he?"
1:14:38
Or "She did this to you,
didn't she?"
1:14:40
That's a very,
very dangerous type
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of interview process to use.
1:14:45
If you talk to
a lot of children
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you don't give them
an option, really.
1:14:48
You just, you be
pretty honest with them.
1:14:50
You have to tell them
pretty honestly that
1:14:52
"We know you went
to Mr. Friedman's class.
1:14:55
We know how many times
you've been to the class. "
1:14:57
You know, we go through
the whole routine.
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"We know that there
was a good chance