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- Some people have love
connected to disappointment.
- [ Moaning ]
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When they think about love,
they experience the memory of pain...
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sorrow, anger
and even rage.
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Rage may be linked to hurt,
which may be linked to a person...
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which then is
connected back to love.
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We build up models of how
we see the world outside of us.
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And the more information that we have, the
more we refine our model one way or another.
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And what we ultimately do
is tell ourselves a story...
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about what the outside world is.
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Any information that we process, any information
that we take in from the environment...
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is always colored by the experiences
that we've had...
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and an emotional response that we're having
to what we're bringing in.
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Who is in the driver's seat when we control
our emotions or we respond to our emotions?
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We know physiologically that nerve cells
that fire together wire together.
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If you practice something over and over,
those nerve cells have a long-term relationship.
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If you get angry on a daily basis,
if you get frustrated on a daily basis...
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if you suffer
on a daily basis...
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if you give reason for
the victimization in your life...
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you're rewiring and reintegrating
that neural net on a daily basis...
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and that neural net now has
a long-term relationship...
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with all those other nerve cells
called an ''identity.''
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We also know that nerve cells that don't
fire together no longer wire together.
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They lose their
long-term relationship...
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because every time
we interrupt...
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the thought process that produces
a chemical response in the body--
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every time we interrupt it, those nerve
cells that are connected to each other...
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start breaking
the long-term relationship.
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When we start interrupting
and observing...
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not by stimulus and response
and that automatic reaction...
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but by observing
the effects it takes...
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then we are no longer
the body-mind conscious emotional person...